i hate women, redux.

lucky-linky and i found myself reading the sordid saga of a young woman who got involved with an older man. nothing new under the sun, eh?

in the second sentence (!) she admits, "i liked to think i was different." so does every 22-year-old ever, honey. she met him as an intern at the magazine of which he was editor. they stayed in touch, he mentored her with her freelance writing and a few years later, she landed a paid gig at his rag.

things end badly with the editor's long-time g/f, and they start bonking. rebound nookie not in her vocab, i guess?

she is hurt because around the office, he keeps his distance. she is hurt because she does not meet his friends nor his parents. she is hurt because he never introduces her to anyone as his "girlfriend". she is hurt when her mother voices her disapproval of this may-december fling and when girlie tells this to the editor, he freaks out, which makes her feel hurt. they had been fucking for 2 months and she says: "In my mind, we should be openly dating as boyfriend and girlfriend, and we’d marry and have children together."

on the phone, she tells him "she loves him". he admits he does not feel the same and they should end "this". he is seeing somebody else and it looks like it may become serious. someone his own age. she is beside herself that he doesn't feel emotionally the same, even though he gave every indication that was the case, and feels sucker-punched about the "other woman", even though they never discussed being monogamous.

he no longer takes her calls or answers her e-mails. it's OVER.

heartbreak hurts, no matter how young or foolish be the one feeling the pain. yet years later, she continues to blame him. "that he should have known better" than to "allow" someone so young to fall in love with him. um, which part of him coming to her with a broken heart does she refuse to accept? that perhaps he wasn't thinking clearly? that he wasn't in control of his own emotions, so how could he be expected to be responsible for hers too?

a year later, through facebook (oh, the joys made possible by social media!), she discovers he is engaged to *that* woman. she is furious and demands to see him. he accepts. she is hurt he didn't tell her in person. they no longer SPEAK so why does he *owe* her that? because he quickly moved on from a fuck-toy and she had not yet accepted that's all she was?

lastly, what really steamed me about this whole baring of her soul, is she gives enough personal details for anybody who worked at that mag to easily deduce the editor she was banging. nice discretion, lady. it's one thing to write about personal experience, but it's possible to do so without harming others. unless that's your intent.